Category: Confidence

The confidence and self esteem puzzle

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Confidence and self-esteem can seem elusive to all of us at certain times of our lives.

Especially when we get bogged down, stuck or just completely lost. So does this sound familiar?

If this seems familiar and you want help please read on. photo on confidence page of a jigsaw

Unravelling the puzzle of what you would like to happen. So when working out what confidence actually means it has to be defined in personal terms.

Let’s make 2 deals here ok?

Stay away from self-esteem for now and only put our attention of confidence ok?

Also no “I don’t want this and I don’t want that” thinking or answers. Ok?

You may spot how self-esteem adjusts itself when confidence is given your full attention and quality thinking. So self-esteem is off limits, for now, that’s the deal.

Finally comes the action once confidence is understood and defined as a reality.

 

Moving from stuck thinking and creating movement.

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Heres a universal truth. Most people haven’t sat down and looked at the nuts and bolts of what it is they actually want.

It seems they can just term their problem and for some that can be a massive thing. It is even something for some that has become about their whole life not happening.

Also if you don’t know what confidence looks, feels or sounds like how can you even get it?

So let’s consider your current map.

 

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We have to define what confidence means within your world. For anyone, the universal larger terms have to be used to get you focussed on what this all means.

And this is how we do it by unravelling the puzzle through questions to define what you want.

 

  • Where will you be when you feel confident?
  • What will you be doing when you have confidence?
  • How will you be thinking confidently?
  • Why is being confident important. What does it get you?
  • Who will you be with when you act confidently?
  • Who will you be when you work all of this out.
  • Finally, once you have confidence after working all the things on this list what is your vision now?

Vision is a powerful lens to look at the world you want to have.

That’s the point of getting you to define how confidence manifests in your future so we can build you up to get you there.

Doing this helps you work towards building confidence and getting higher self-esteem by building on good behaviours.


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So how do we get you to tap into your potential and take action?

It's this simple:

You can do all of the above yourself or get in touch and talk to me about a course in confidence building.

Or check out the life coaching area by clicking HERE

 

Last word here:

Did you spot how when you build in being confident that self-esteem just grows too and comes with it?

That’s why I left it out of the equation because when we focus on you being confident we really don’t need to do much work on self-esteem, do we?

 

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Mark Pettigrew

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Diagonal Reframe – Life coaching series

Diagonal Reframe – Life coaching series

Diagonal Reframe - Life coaching series

So continuing this life coaching series with the diagonal reframe NLP technique. This can change how you feel very quickly and move you into a resourceful state in an instant.

 

The diagonal reframe is a brand new technique and cutting edge so please stay tuned for how to do it in this post.

 

This has been taught to me by my mentor Mike Mandel. Mike has continued to be at the cutting edge of personal change and communication since 1975. He still continues to astound us with what he brings to personal development.

 

So the great news is that the diagonal reframe is quick, easy to do and changes emotional issues in an instant. So follow the procedure I will outline now. Or just skip to the video right at the bottom of this post.

 

Remember when you reframe something you change the way you feel, view or consider something to a completely new perspective.

 

The diagonal reframe and how to do it with ease.

 

Take a feeling and as an example feeling lazy. Take that feeling and really get in touch with its embodied intensity and how it actually manifests and feels in your body.

Note: this is not for trauma

 

  1. Stand with your shoulders and head looking forward comfortably locked in that forward position. Look down and to your right. Almost as if you are looking just to the area to the right of your right foot.
  2. Really get a sense of that emotional feeling of lazy being in this area and manifest it physically. Really work this feeling up and intensify it.
  3. Imagine you take it between your hands and grab the lazy feeling.
  4. Move the lazy feeling from this area and move it through the area of the bridge of your nose. Then up to your top left.
  5. Notice the picture that the lazy feeling has now become. If you see a picture then good. If you are like me and you just know what it is by words then that’s good too. If you have to pretend what the picture is then just do what works and allow your unconscious to tell you what it is.
  6. Smile, breathe, shut your eyes, shake off your body and relax.
  7. Now notice how that feeling has completely gone and check it has worked.

 

The diagonal reframe is that simple and easy to do.

 

Note: If you are left handed the following video explains that the positions are shifted to the bottom left and then to top right.

 

If this is not working for you then you really have to get the physical feelings and manifest them and trust that you can and will do this.

Also, trust what your unconscious mind throws up as a picture just trust it. As I said it could be an actual picture.

Or just words so just accept them or if you have to pretend then just pretend.

 

Please see this video of how to do the diagonal reframe and how easy it is to do.

 

Video ThumbnailDiagonal Reframe – Life coaching series So continuing this life coaching series with the diagonal reframe NLP technique. This can change how you feel very quickly and move you into a resourceful state in an instant.   The diagonal reframe is a brand new technique and cutting edge so please stay

 

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Mark

 

The Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique

This is a personal life coaching NLP technique called Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique you can take anywhere and do anywhere where nobody even knows you’re doing it at all.

 

The beauty of this is that you can change a past event in your mind so that the emotional intensity is changed within the neurology and chemistry in your brain thus re-coding that event inside your brain. So if you do that you will no longer be affected in the same way you were

 

So if you do this simple technique you will no longer be affected in the same way you were before. So can create emotional freedom and brain changes and can be happier, more productive and free to run your own brain in a way that serves you.

 

I will post a step by step video after the written run down for you here for the Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique

 

  1. Pull up a picture/image / event of something you want to change
  2. Freeze frame that picture at the emotional intensity point of the memory (this is a crucial step so please take care to do this)
  3. Make the picture black and white
  4. Make the picture grainy and indistinguishable
  5. Push it away with your hands as far as you can so its small into the distance
  6. Place a picture frame around that small, dark grainy, indistinguishable image you can’t make out and place it on a wall in your mind
  7. Place a picture light above it like the ones in picture galleries or museums
  8. Physically reach out and switch the light on with your hand
  9. leave it all there as it is now
  10. Now close your eyes, breathe, stand tall and confidently and shake off your body and get on with your day.

 

Tomorrow check that event in your mind and you will find you have re-coded it in your brain and it is now quite different.

 

See below for a video to help even more with this simple and very powerful Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique.

 

Video ThumbnailThis is a personal life coaching NLP technique called Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique you can take anywhere and do anywhere where nobody even knows you're doing it at all.   The beauty of this is that you can change a past event in your mind so that the emotional intensity is change

 

So check tomorrow and you will find the emotional intensity has changed and you have actually recoded your experience of it internally in your brain. It’s as simple as that.

 

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Mark