Category: Life Coaching

“Quietening The Critical Voice” – Life Coaching Series

Coaching yourself to shut down an annoying voice in your head.

 

Many of us have or have had a voice in our head that just won’t shut up, go away or quieten haven’t we?

 

The truth is we all have a voice inside our head and thankfully and in, most cases it’s our own voice. and that’s just called thinking.

 

But some people have a voice that criticises them, is too loud or just won’t shut up or give them peace. I have had it in the past myself where my own inner dialogue just drove me to distraction and literally did my head in.

I have had it in the past myself where my own inner dialogue just drove me to distraction and literally did my head in.

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It is my intention to show you 3 simple life coaching techniques to either shut down that voice for good or take control of it.

Interested in learning them?

 

The first and in my opinion the most powerful is changing the way you write. Yes, a simple stroke of a pen can shut that voice off completely.

Through graphology taught to me by Mike Mandel it can be spotted and remedied.

If you write the cross bar when writing the letter T from right to left you probably have an overbearing inner voice.

By writing the cross bar from right to left you have set up “willpower directed against self”

The simple coaching remedy = write the cross bar from left to right. It’s that simple and powerful to change immediately.

 

The second – slacken your jaw, let it shift slightly forward, relax the jaw and breathe calmly. Yes, it’s that simple and powerful.

 

The third – whilst having a slackened jaw as above – Touch your tongue to the inside of your upper teeth. To supercharge this imagine you have a droplet of water between your tongue and your upper teeth.

To supercharge this imagine you have a droplet of water between your tongue and your upper teeth.

 

So as I said all you need are 3 simple and powerful coaching techniques to take control of your head.

 

 

Once again thanks for reading my life coaching editorials. lease allow yourself to comment below and tell me what you want me to write about next.

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Best wishes

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Mark

Diagonal Reframe – Life coaching series

Diagonal Reframe – Life coaching series

Diagonal Reframe - Life coaching series

So continuing this life coaching series with the diagonal reframe NLP technique. This can change how you feel very quickly and move you into a resourceful state in an instant.

 

The diagonal reframe is a brand new technique and cutting edge so please stay tuned for how to do it in this post.

 

This has been taught to me by my mentor Mike Mandel. Mike has continued to be at the cutting edge of personal change and communication since 1975. He still continues to astound us with what he brings to personal development.

 

So the great news is that the diagonal reframe is quick, easy to do and changes emotional issues in an instant. So follow the procedure I will outline now. Or just skip to the video right at the bottom of this post.

 

Remember when you reframe something you change the way you feel, view or consider something to a completely new perspective.

 

The diagonal reframe and how to do it with ease.

 

Take a feeling and as an example feeling lazy. Take that feeling and really get in touch with its embodied intensity and how it actually manifests and feels in your body.

Note: this is not for trauma

 

  1. Stand with your shoulders and head looking forward comfortably locked in that forward position. Look down and to your right. Almost as if you are looking just to the area to the right of your right foot.
  2. Really get a sense of that emotional feeling of lazy being in this area and manifest it physically. Really work this feeling up and intensify it.
  3. Imagine you take it between your hands and grab the lazy feeling.
  4. Move the lazy feeling from this area and move it through the area of the bridge of your nose. Then up to your top left.
  5. Notice the picture that the lazy feeling has now become. If you see a picture then good. If you are like me and you just know what it is by words then that’s good too. If you have to pretend what the picture is then just do what works and allow your unconscious to tell you what it is.
  6. Smile, breathe, shut your eyes, shake off your body and relax.
  7. Now notice how that feeling has completely gone and check it has worked.

 

The diagonal reframe is that simple and easy to do.

 

Note: If you are left handed the following video explains that the positions are shifted to the bottom left and then to top right.

 

If this is not working for you then you really have to get the physical feelings and manifest them and trust that you can and will do this.

Also, trust what your unconscious mind throws up as a picture just trust it. As I said it could be an actual picture.

Or just words so just accept them or if you have to pretend then just pretend.

 

Please see this video of how to do the diagonal reframe and how easy it is to do.

 

 

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Mark

 

6 Point Energy Tapping Technique – Life coaching series

6 Point Energy Tapping Technique – Life Coaching Series.

 

I have continued this life coaching series with an energy tapping technique you can use anywhere. The whole point of this series is to empower you with skills that will change your current state and reality quickly.

 

This technique is completely new and from a  master of personal change and communication. Mike Mandel has been an expert in this field since 1975 so stay tuned for something completely new.

 

If you know anything about this I’m sure you will agree that many energy tapping regimes are complex, take time and mental effort to remember and apply so can be awkward to master.

The great news is this energy tapping technique is simple, powerful and easy to learn.

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I will take you through it point by point then show you in a youtube video you can use if you prefer to reference it there.

 

The technique is usable for emotional issues as well as physical aches and pains as well.

Which makes this a great all round resource to carry with you in your back pocket and use.

So how to do the energy tapping technique.

Note: When tapping, tap in the spot I show you in the video around 7-10 times with a force that you know you are actually tapping with some force but won’t hurt or bruise yourself.

 

  1. Firstly score the thing/issue/problem/situation that you want to change. Use a scale of 0-10 where 0 is completely flat and has no pain or emotional intensity at all. 10 is the maximum discomfort it could possibly be.
  2. Tune into the physical and emotional feeling of the thing that is bothering you that you want to change and manifest it completely (also score it again) and keep it present.
  3. Tap on the top of your head 7-10 times saying “let it go, let it go, let it go” each time you tap. You can say this out loud or in your head.
  4. Tap on the front of your forehead with your 4 finger tips vertical 7-10 times saying “let it go, let it go, let it go” each time you tap.
  5. Tap on the edge of your eye right on the bone saying “let it go, let it go, let it go” each time you tap.
  6. Tap right under your eye on the radial part of the bone saying “let it go, let it go, let it go” each time you tap.
  7. Tap on your collarbone saying “let it go, let it go, let it go” each time you tap.
  8. Hold onto your wrist for the time it would take 7-10 taps saying “let it go, let it go, let it go” each time you tap.
  9. Breath in, then breathe out, dropping your arms saying “Peace”.
  10. Shake off your body and let go of the process completely.

 

Now score the thing you were working on again and once you have a number do the complete sequence over again.

Re score at the end and continue doing this until the thing you are working on is at a score of zero and completely flat.

 

Please see this video for the whole process of the energy tapping technique.

 

 

 

Note: please make sure you are well hydrated for this and away from electrical sources and technology like computers and mobile phones.

 

I would like to give credit for this energy tapping technique to my mentor Dr Mike Mandel and you can find his website here.

 

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Best wishes.

Mark

The Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique

This is a personal life coaching NLP technique called Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique you can take anywhere and do anywhere where nobody even knows you’re doing it at all.

 

The beauty of this is that you can change a past event in your mind so that the emotional intensity is changed within the neurology and chemistry in your brain thus re-coding that event inside your brain. So if you do that you will no longer be affected in the same way you were

 

So if you do this simple technique you will no longer be affected in the same way you were before. So can create emotional freedom and brain changes and can be happier, more productive and free to run your own brain in a way that serves you.

 

I will post a step by step video after the written run down for you here for the Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique

 

  1. Pull up a picture/image / event of something you want to change
  2. Freeze frame that picture at the emotional intensity point of the memory (this is a crucial step so please take care to do this)
  3. Make the picture black and white
  4. Make the picture grainy and indistinguishable
  5. Push it away with your hands as far as you can so its small into the distance
  6. Place a picture frame around that small, dark grainy, indistinguishable image you can’t make out and place it on a wall in your mind
  7. Place a picture light above it like the ones in picture galleries or museums
  8. Physically reach out and switch the light on with your hand
  9. leave it all there as it is now
  10. Now close your eyes, breathe, stand tall and confidently and shake off your body and get on with your day.

 

Tomorrow check that event in your mind and you will find you have re-coded it in your brain and it is now quite different.

 

See below for a video to help even more with this simple and very powerful Literal Reframe NLP Life Coaching Technique.

 

 

So check tomorrow and you will find the emotional intensity has changed and you have actually recoded your experience of it internally in your brain. It’s as simple as that.

 

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Mark

 

Start from the best place with life coaching and depression

There are life coaches out there that would take your money if you have depression but please read this first!

 

I have often had enquiries about life coaching from people that have experienced episodepression and life coaching free yourself from rigid thinking imagedes of depression. You may well see from the tone of my writing that I am very passionate about my own opinion (my own opinion is only my own thoughts and are mine only – disclaimer)

 

 

Why am I passionate? To give you some context depression can be overcome, beaten and cured, yes you heard me right there! Depression is not a life sentence, it’s not a disease and it’s not something you are born with. I want the best for every person that reads this or contacts me and I will give them my honest opinion and why I am passionate about people being advised well and helped by the right people.

 

I am a caring person and want to make sure I don’t come across as an arse hole that is overbearing and the world’s authority because I am not. I want the best for every person that reads this or contacts me and I will give them my opinion and why I am passionate about people being served safely and powerfully.

 

Depression is something that needs careful and skilful therapists who work with and practice Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness – note: this is not a complete list of treatments but I would say CBT is a must coupled with mindfulness.

 

These therapists help people understand the ins and outs of the disorder and how it can be worked with, overcome and cured. I know I am intentionally hitting my point home here but people need to be helped to reorder their thinking and relearn thinking styles that help them balance, view the world from differing positions and create thinking styles that are not rigid. And this can be done believe me.

 

How much and how many sessions of therapy?

You should be looking at circa £50 per session and expect to work with the therapist for a minimum of 12 sessions to get things back on an even keel. (this is just a suggested minimum of sessions and investment)

Please contact Colin Mitchell at the Glasgow Cognitive Therapy Centre for that who I wholeheartedly trust and refer you to and please call him on 0141 332 0229 or email him HERE  Please tell them you have contacted them through me and been referred by me.

 

Then the future could be yours to move right into with a life coach like me. So please see, feel and hear this as a gift from me to you and don’t waste a single penny on life coaching if you feel there is work to be done to resolve any depression.

 

So back to life coaching

Life coaching may be appropriate AFTER a person has worked with a therapist that is skilled in depression and helped the person adapt to using day to day recovery and coping plans and skills. But not before therapy!

A person has to be in a good place to be coached and able to have the ability to create the future from many points of view and thinking styles. If these thinking styles are not in place you are throwing your money away with a coach and might as well flush it down the toilet as far as I am concerned.

 

If you have resolved depression and want to build a future that is based on what you want rather than what you don’t want the time could be right.

 

depression and life coaching image look to the future photoFrom me to you and don’t waste a single penny on life coaching if you feel there is work to be done on depression still.

 

I would be happy to help you with life coaching but please think about your own self in the safest possible way firstly.

Please contact me HERE to discuss coaching now or just call me on 07894900244.

 

Once again thanks for reading my editorials and please comment on what you want me to write about next.

Mark

 

Starting your own journey of change

Change – Creating That By Yourself

I have spotted something really useful by people who have worked with me successfully that I want to share with you. It has made me wonder if people even realise that this is a big part of change and that they would just benefit by understanding what I have seen.

Are you interested yet to know about it and what I have seen and experienced for myself?

 

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Well for me the people that can take the first step them self of getting in touch with me via text, email, facebook or any other electronic format have started their own change process is the first thing I have seen that works straight away.

 

People that take the initiative have consciously or even unconsciously started their own process of change from that instant they get in touch with me because it’s a crucial step.

 

Then people take the next step of having a free consultation by phone or face to face with me. This for me is really useful so they can just feel heard and I can understand what they want to change. It’s really important you are heard and listened to deeply and actively so you know you have been heard and understood in the aspect of what you want.

 

This builds trust before we even meet and helps you to know that I am the right person to help you to get to where you want to get to. Then they go ahead themself and make a booking and pay for it before they come here which is a further commitment to what they want and change.

 

So when we meet face to face to create change and start that journey you have already started it because you initiated the beginning. This may sound very simple and maybe too simple but trust me the people that take the time and effort to make sure they have done the above get far better results just by doing these steps:

 

  1. Make  contact with me (Contact me here Now)
  2. Book a free consultation (Reserve one here Now)
  3. Book and pay for a session upfront and in advance

 

I really felt this was important to write about and give credit to people by bringing it to their awareness. It is my mission to help people see that they are far more powerful than their problems. Working together is important to create change and yet you can do those things easily when you decide what you want.

 

Once again thanks for blogging with me and I really hope you will comment, share and contact me so I can help you.

 

Best wishes and thanks again.

Mark

 

Hypnosis and life coaching how does that one work then?

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Before we start it’s probably best that I dispel some old fashioned rumours and confirm some truths too about hypnosis and life coaching.

 

What is absolute rubbish when people talk about hypnosis?

  • It’s not a thing where you would things that would go against your morals or anything you would do in real life.
  • It’s not mind control where someone else puts you under their power and manipulates you at all.
  • You cannot get stuck in a trance. Could you get stuck reading a book? No you couldn’t and neither can you in a trance.
  • Hypnotists don’t swing watches in front of you to get you in a trance. That’s a thing of movies.

 

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  • Hypnosis is relaxing and helps you become so relaxed that critical and negative thinking is bypassed whilst you are in a trance.
  • Hypnosis gets you to stop thinking about what you don’t want and puts your attention onto what you do want.
  • Hypnosis helps you think in different ways you normally wouldn’t so is very supportive of focussing on solutions and resources

 

Why life coaching with hypnosis then?

This is how our brains work and how they process information in conscious thought using our short term memory – we can only handle or process 7 + or – 2 pieces of conscious things at a time. This is according to up to date neuroscience research and studies.

 

Just to make that more real for you –

  1. Think about what you can look at now
  2. What you can hear right now
  3. What you can feel physically
  4. What your emotions are now
  5. Your opinion from memory in this moment
  6. Your taste in your mouth
  7. The smell around you

This is what your brain can cope with in the present moment in short term memory.

 

But the subconscious mind processes between 2 and 20 million pieces of information or data in the background. We are talking about blood pressure, your pulse, stomach digestion, skin shedding, and your dreams at night, stored memories and eye blinking to mention some.

 

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Our memory is like a store of our resources, skills and abilities and they have always been there stored away and available but sometimes out of our conscious touch or reach. Or so we thought!!

 

So an alternative to having an intellectual conversation with a coach can be using hypnosis. Trance work can help to re-engage with your resources and make them available to your conscious mind by bringing them back into your awareness again.

 

So if you think of resources like tools we are able to dust them off, pick them up and put them into action again. So for problem-solving or improvement hypnosis can be great for inspiration and creating a new direction.

 

So the last thing before coming out of trance the hypnotist may ask is something like “what are your new opportunities you found? And when you are ready to bring them forward come out of trance Now!”

 

I often find having a notebook for the person to write down these new insights is a great way to capture them straight away.

 

So if you want to be helped to get out of your own way perhaps it’s time to, book a hypnosis appointment Now!

 

Thanks again for blogging with me and please comment and share this post today.

Marko

Separate The Bad Habit From The Intention

Is your bad habit just pure bad?

What if it had a lot of good in it too?

 

 

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Most of us don’t challenge the way we think because we generally agree it’s just the way we are which is a social protection mechanism and a bad habit. I bet you have heard something like this many times “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks” or ” a leopard doesn’t change its spots”

 

This really is a big fat lie that keeps us all safe and comfortable huddled together agreeing with each other in comfortable bliss and safety but have you ever wondered why we stay stuck with a bad habit?

 

This is really common so please just consider this with an open mind. A major premise of NLPNeuro Linguistic Programming is that the sub-conscious mind will never do anything to harm the person and everything it does is for a positive reason.

 

Sometimes I talk about it in this way to help people consider it differently – I often ask smokers what do you get out of smoking and most times they say “absolutely nothing”. Point to note is smoking is the bad habit.

 

Then I ask this “what’s the positive intention or positive purpose of smoking?” which sometimes can take a bit of teasing out of the person and it usually includes the following –

 

“I get to leave the office for a quick fag” “I get to relax after a long day” “it stops me killing the kids” “It helps me feel good” so the positive purposes or intentions of the bad habit are Comfort, relaxation, safety and freedom to which the light bulb comes on and they then realise they smoke for very good reasons. So no more denial about getting absolutely nothing out of smoking.

 

This is a turn around moment in the conversation realising there are positives in a bad habit. But more than that is the sense that it’s not all bad so a person can see that beating them self up doesn’t help them progress to reconsider a bad habit as something else entirely.

 

So without considering this turn around this is why we can stay stuck with a bad habit because of a rigid belief of the event that created it and those circumstances.

 

So the point here is that by loosening up the grip on the belief and seeing the story about the bad habit in a different way can really help you start to make changes.

 

What would happen if you took some time to think about the positive intentions of decisions and beliefs you formed from past events rather than just accepting them as rigid stuck problems? I mean really consider why you did things and find the positive rather than the actual past event that happened only which keeps you stuck.

 

Deliberately look for the positive of the things you thought of as problems to redefine your relationship to past events and give yourself a different way to think about habits.

 

You never know you might give yourself a bit of a break and see new possibilities and choices for progress and change because people really do change when they find a way to look at things from a new perspective that consistently works.

 

It’s amazing what happens when you change your relationship and story with a past event and how that can help you create new possibilities. It might even make you smile when you see a positive in there and that in itself is all it takes to start the process.

 

Please contact me HERE about a free 2-hour coaching session Now to consider new and better ways to change your future rather than just letting it happen.

 

Again thanks for blogging with me and please comment, share and like this editorial.

 

Marko

 

 

 

Are you fed up with the same old story?

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What’s your story then?

 

Are you getting stale or bored because of the same old story your trapped inside? Need to say things out loud to make you feel alive in your workplace or at home? Well read on and tell me what you think after!

 

Life coaches are here to serve you and not to please you and that may sound provocative but is completely the truth and that’s the way it needs to be to shake people out of their stories. Your situation depends on you being able to honestly dig down into that story and situation skillfully to see what’s happening and how it affects you for good or for bad.

 

Yes it is uncomfortable having to go into the nuts and bolts of your life or the story you created but more and more high achievers are doing that. And with professional objective strangers like me to help them cut through the crap of their story about their life.

 

The closest people in our lives are not objective enough to help us as they are far too close to our stories and form part of the narrative. They also can’t tell you what you need to hear because they have a relationship with you and are part of the cast.

 

Most offer well-meaning advice that you might up ending up resenting or dismissing all because they were never your ideas and that can be painful to go through and even exhausting. Why can it be painful or exhausting? Well have you ever went on someones advice and eventually binned it off because in the end you realised it wasnt your idea? Are you getting the point now?

 

A skilled coach will bring out your own ideas, your greatness, your problem-solving abilities, your resourcefulness and get you to dig deep into your beliefs and habits for meaning. When you do this your story starts to loosen and can begin to change.

 

More often than not we keep going with behaviours, habits and routines that need to be discussed with someone that can see what’s going on from an objective level who can see the process and content from a different perspective and invite you to consider changes.

 

Most people can’t see the woods from the trees because they are so invested into their story that it is just too blurred and that’s where a coach adds value. A skilful caring coach will insist on getting into clarity and meaning of what’s happening for you and at times this is very uncomfortable.

 

Why can it be so uncomfortable? Well people pussy foot around you normally and don’t tell you how it is for loads of reasons like they don’t want to offend you or lose your affection. So having objectivity and not being involved in your life means that a coach must ask questions that encourage you to flesh out deeper meaning and often shock you with their questions or the answers you find.

 

Being asked skilful interesting questions can make you uncomfortable and stretch your understanding and that’s where the magic happens. Once we are awoken by seeing how we do things, what is there and really understanding what we want in a positive sense then a whole new map of your world or story can begin. This is the beauty of being served and not pleased because this is what friends do and coaches don’t.

 

Your direction, values and beliefs are the batteries for your success and can’t be installed by a coach! Coaching is a dance where the coach sometimes leads but the content and new direction is all pulled from within you by asking interesting questions that take you much deeper.

 

Are you fed up being pleased by well-meaning people and need to challenge yourself, your reality or your situation? What would it be like if you had powerful insights on a regular basis and changed that story for ever?

 

“Mark has that rare skill of being able to listen and to hear the message that is not being said directly. I found his ability to prompt me to consider a range of things that have either held me back, or driven me to pursue irrelevant issues extremely helpful.

I would heartily recommend his services in this field. His background and his “people skills” give him the ability to home in on the areas a person needs to focus upon. I’m very grateful to him for the insight he has given me.”

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If you want to experience a complimentary 2-hour deep coaching session face to face or over the internet then please click HERE now where we can have a powerful conversation together and start changing that story.

 

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Is Change Making You Stuck Or Getting You Moving?

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Confidence what does that actually mean?

 

Have you ever noticed we can get seriously stuck on a single word like confidence and it’s meaning or get straight into action by the meaning confidence? If this has ever been your experience it’s very common trust me so your not alone.

 

Our personal leadership and self-talk (self-talk is only thinking) can a bit muddled by the way we talk to ourself and the sentences we make in our heads about what’s happening in our lives.

 

Many people have a tendency to have a want for confidence, love, Happiness, success or other things in life and can get bogged down or stuck by the vagueness of single word.

 

Well here is the problem and in my opinion its ok to call them problems but that’s just me – Changes, happiness, confidence, love or success aren’t real things in the sense you could own or have instantly. So sometimes we use vague terms which can get us bogged down and stuck by thinking things are just too big.

 

I often serve people that tell me they want confidence and that’s a great place to start to help someone realise how they think and construct their story by the way they frame their thoughts. And let’s face it thoughts are just self-talk in your head right?

 

Once people get really specific about things like changes and what these actually mean in straightforward terms things can change. For instance asking yourself “what do I see myself doing when I have changed, what do I want to do when I have changed and why do I want to change then the plan becomes a lot clearer. Thus change becomes more achievable and not just a single word of 6 letters.

 

Change work is a process and not a thing and when we identify that we can create direction towards a defined outcome like confidence and actions to move ahead with. Without the process then words can stop your progress.

 

Once we start to see in what part of a person’s life the changes are needed then we can look to see what’s missing, what’s not required, what alternative things may be needed then we can get into action and down to the process of change.

 

So pinpointing how we improve in a certain area by then creating an action plan for a process of change can create the change othat has been missing and move us into action by actually starting the changes towards confidence.

 

So it’s interesting to consider when you have an area to improve to first spot fuzzy and vague words like passion, energy or even love to then get really specific about what this means to start to the change process and become really confident at it.

 

Please contact me for a complimentary 2-hour deep coaching session by clicking HERE and the session can be done over Skype, Facetime, Zoom or in person so distance is not an issue.

 

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    Mark is an awesome coach and I really value the work he’s done with me. He has an incisive intuition and approach that gets to the heart of the matter quickly and helps you see things in a new way that removes blocks and gets you motoring in the right direction for you.
    Mark really embodies the qualities of a great coach – he’s smart, honest and totally focused on you as his client.
    Alison O’Leary – London 2016

 

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